I haven't done the calculations recently, but I don't think it's surprising that we haven't found evidence of other civilizations yet.
On Earth, we've only had radio for ~ 100 years. We've only sent things out of our gravity well in the last 50 years. That's a tiny, tiny period of time in the greater scheme of things.
Consider what's happened on Earth in the last 2000 years (another blink of an eye):
Rome reached its peak and fell. Western civilization was in the doldrums for ~ 1000 years and only climbed back to where Rome was by ~ 1300 - 1400. We've had 2 horrific wars, and come close to destruction of civilization a couple of times.
It's a very slow process for civilization to advance. Destruction is far too easy to guarantee long-term monotonic increases in the capabilities of a civilization. And that says nothing about events out of any civilization's control (disease, planetary impacts of various kinds, giant methane releases, etc., etc.).
There probably are or have been other civilizations out there (I refuse to believe that we're unique), but they're so very far away that we may never find evidence for their existance.
Then there's the issue of the economics of it: Why would an advanced civilization spend the huge amounts of resources it would take to spread out (and find that needle in a haystack that has life) and make itself known? It's certainly very hard to justify here on Earth.
My $0.02.
Cheers,
Scott.