Received this today, and thought I'd pass the info along to ya'll, too.

the "..." is stuff about the job, etc.

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hello addison,
...
we are slowly trying to piece together our lives
without ben. some days are better than others but all
in all it has been a very sad time. we buried ben's
ashes this summer in the old part of the cemetary here
in sandpoint. it is a place that is up on a hill
overlooking the countryside and under the shade of a
large old tree. the headstone was finally put up a
couple weeks ago. it's really nice as headstones go.
we never, in our wildest dreams or nightmares, thought
that we would be doing this for ben.
we wanted you to know that we put "our ben" on the
stone. one of the things that so moved us was when we
found the iwethey site and were reading the postings
about people's reactions to ben's death. and someone
wrote and said "our ben?". it was at that moment that
we were reminded that ben belonged to many people...
and we were so thankful that so many people expressed
their thoughts and were so kind to us.
...
dee and ray