. . one has to wonder how a seemingly reasonable and intelligent guy emded up married to someone like he's described, and how he'd let it all get so far out of hand completely unaware.

Here, while Rose (not her real name) has written all the checks and paid all the bills for a decade, I've got a damned good grasp of the cash flow and how much money should be where and when it should be there.

Of course, we haven't the slightest grounds for knowing whether this story is fair and accurate, or even at all related to reality, so we can make no judgement in either direction at this time.