He died this morning

Post #401,150 by rcareaga 4/24/15 1:21:12 PM Reply	He died this morning It's a mercy, but I'm still kinda broken up.
Post #401,154 by drook 4/24/15 1:38:12 PM Reply	Guess he really didn't want to stay at the new place I hope you take that the way I meant it. One of my cousins said something similar when my grandmother checked out. She was also chronically dissatisfied with her accommodations. We were half convinced she went when she did to prove a point. -- Drew
Post #401,160 by rcareaga 4/24/15 1:46:55 PM Reply	Re: Guess he really didn't want to stay at the new place It was a slow fade. I don't know that he died of anything in particular (probably a heart attack), but he was simply fading out as he approached 94. He was still confrontational and obstreperous almost to the end. Odd, but when I received the news I was just screwing up my courage to call him on behalf of the other sibs to deliver the message that no, we weren't going to move him again a week after moving him the last time. I'd just written down the number (his phone was installed a day ago) when I got the news. It's a mercy, but grief, of course, dismisses these rational considerations.
Post #401,166 by mmoffitt 4/24/15 3:05:58 PM Reply	Indeed it does. I am truly sorry. I'm there with you. Mom was the last member of the family I was born into alive. Her last two weeks on this earth were absolutely horrific and yet, I know the sense of loss you speak of. It turns out the cliche is true: Time heals ... It's only been a week, but already I'm feeling the grief lift, slowly but surely. As Scott says, "Hang in there." I can assure you things will improve. Until then, know that my thoughts are with you.
Post #401,156 by Another Scott 4/24/15 1:39:06 PM Reply	:-( You did well in trying to make him comfortable. That's all any of us can do. Condolences to you and yours. Remember the good times. Cheers, Scott.
Post #401,162 by a6l6e6x 4/24/15 2:25:24 PM Reply	Dittos on that thought! Condolences from me as well. Alex "There is a cult of ignorance in the United States, and there has always been. The strain of anti-intellectualism has been a constant thread winding its way through our political and cultural life, nurtured by the false notion that democracy means that "my ignorance is just as good as your knowledge." -- Isaac Asimov
Post #401,157 by pwhysall 4/24/15 1:39:57 PM Reply	You can now focus on the good times Let the bad memories fade.
Post #401,158 by malraux 4/24/15 1:40:24 PM 4/24/15 1:41:12 PM Reply	Very sorry to hear that For you and your brother. It seems that you did what you could to keep his last days comfortable whether your dad agreed or not. Edit: Sorry that you lost someone you loved, not sorry that he didn't continue in a state that was painful. Ah, hell, you know what I mean. Regards, -scott Welcome to Rivendell, Mr. Anderson. Edited by malraux April 24, 2015, 01:41:12 PM EDT Expand All History
Post #401,177 by crazy 4/24/15 6:01:25 PM Reply	Will there be strippers? http://blogs.wsj.com/chinarealtime/2015/04/23/chinese-government-says-please-stop-hiring-funeral-strippers/ My condolences.
Post #401,182 by static 4/24/15 8:29:57 PM Reply	Condolences. Which is a kind of useless space-filling word. Eh. I get to look forward to this, I guess, as my parents are slowly but surely declining with the passing decades. Several times in the past few years I've realized I want my Dad back the way he was twenty or thirty years ago. Mum, too. Wade. Just Add Story http://justaddstory.wordpress.com/
Post #401,278 by jake123 4/28/15 3:11:34 PM Reply	I'm sorry to hear that Rand He had a good long run.
Post #401,287 by rcareaga 4/28/15 8:59:24 PM Reply	He did ...and his decline was accompanied by many of the usual insults of age, but not by lavish suffering. He just...wore out. I'd be prepared to go like that on a more abbreviated timeline. Dying in one's sleep at an advanced age, without having previously surrendered one's wits: also good. I've spent the past day and some sorting through his affairs and possessions. Gives me some perspective about my own estate cordially,
Post #401,363 by rcareaga 4/30/15 6:34:52 PM Reply	the younger brother adds this He was asking, against all reason, for his cane less than a day before he died. When we reminded him that he had to keep all weight off his feet if his heels* were to heal properly, he responded "I'll stand on the balls of my feet." He was still attempting to impose his will on the universe at t-minus twelve hours. That's my dad, all right. *suppurating sores very close to gangrenous, apparently

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