They talk up a stream about what they want in a man. Ignore it all and just watch - see the jerks who can get a date with them and the ones they marry. Not much similarity there. Those Paleolithic hormones still have control.
With evolution and all, it's a wonder guys aren't even worse. It's probably because once women are safely married, they cheat. Hospital DNA statistics show between 1 in 5 and 1 in 10 (depending on demographics) babies born are not related to the legal father.
Same with dung beetles. The females go for the biggest, fiercest ones with large sharp horns. Those guys stay up guarding the entrance to the digs. Meanwhile the males who couldn't get a date with any of the single females dig side tunnels into the nest and party.
Disclaimer - this information is statistical and may not apply to any specific individual situation.