I understand
I would be thrilled if my ex made our kids a priority. I would love for him to see them more often. I have never withheld visitation or denied his infrequent requests to visit with the kids,even though sometimes this is very difficult for me. His absence has had a debilitating effect on them. I wish things were different, but they're not. He made choices and my kids carry the burden, and that's not fair. He left me with the sole responsibility of raising our children. That's not fair either. But he did it.
He cant dismiss his obligations simply because he is tired of paying. I wont let him neglect them.
I know it is very painful to be away from your son. If I was separated from my children I would break. Fight like hell to be an active parent in his life, regardless of how difficult his mom may be.
I guess in the best situation both parents would put aside their difference and make choices based on what is best for their children. This is the kind of divorce I hoped for. It's not what I got.
So off I go to court. I spoke with my attorney today and meet with her next week to start the paperwork to counter sue.
I hate this, but the only way out is through.
