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Post #241,058

by Another Scott

1/11/06 7:44:43 PM

My $0.02.

All of your reply was fine except for:

If it is unclear, ask questions and I'll try to clarify. But please don't try to offer solutions without understanding exactly what I am asking for...

It's very easy to take that as condescending, even if you don't intend it to be. It's impolite to be annoyed at someone who is trying to help. I was very surprised that you wrote it that way - it's unlike you.

On seeing your closing "Cheers" I see that you weren't intending it to be so, but I hope you see why people might take it that way.

Think back to Brenda's conflicts with her SIL about her [link|http://z.iwethey.org/forums/render/content/show?contentid=226046|writing style]. There's a fine line between being condescending and attempting to offer helpful advice to someone who is trying to help.

HTH.

Cheers,
Scott.

Post #241,077

by ben_tilly

1/11/06 10:15:51 PM

Thanks, that helps

I have come to believe that idealism without discipline is a quick road to disaster, while discipline without idealism is pointless. -- Aaron Ward (my brother)

Dual desktops, to same set of virtual desktops? - (ben_tilly) - (47) - Jan. 4, 2006, 06:08:54 PM EST

I haven't found anything. - (folkert) - (35) - Jan. 10, 2006, 11:49:17 PM EST

Thanks for trying - (ben_tilly) - (31) - Jan. 11, 2006, 02:30:41 AM EST

Brute-force method - (drewk) - (30) - Jan. 11, 2006, 09:33:40 AM EST

That solves the wrong problem - (ben_tilly) - (29) - Jan. 11, 2006, 11:15:39 AM EST

Punt - (drewk) - (28) - Jan. 11, 2006, 12:08:00 PM EST

Ironic - (ben_tilly) - (27) - Jan. 11, 2006, 01:46:42 PM EST

No reply would have been better than #240993. IMHO. -NT - (Another Scott) - (26) - Jan. 11, 2006, 01:50:51 PM EST

Can you explain why? - (ben_tilly) - (25) - Jan. 11, 2006, 06:33:37 PM EST

Clarification - (drewk) - (4) - Jan. 11, 2006, 07:07:40 PM EST

Can you tell me how... - (ben_tilly) - (3) - Jan. 11, 2006, 09:47:41 PM EST

I think this is clearer. - (Another Scott) - (1) - Jan. 11, 2006, 10:13:41 PM EST

Yes, that is clearer - (ben_tilly) - Jan. 11, 2006, 10:18:35 PM EST

It's an "instance" problem - (drewk) - Jan. 12, 2006, 09:44:14 AM EST

Why people get pissed off at you: - (admin) - (17) - Jan. 11, 2006, 07:27:44 PM EST

Try to word my ideal response - (ben_tilly) - (16) - Jan. 11, 2006, 10:10:38 PM EST

I did... - (admin) - (1) - Jan. 11, 2006, 10:40:20 PM EST

Not quite - (ben_tilly) - Jan. 11, 2006, 11:27:59 PM EST

Been meaning to ask - (drewk) - (13) - Jan. 13, 2006, 09:58:28 PM EST

WTF is that supposed to mean? -NT - (ben_tilly) - (12) - Jan. 13, 2006, 10:55:17 PM EST

Lighten up, Francis[1] - (drewk) - (8) - Jan. 13, 2006, 11:09:02 PM EST

None of which I have seen - (ben_tilly) - (7) - Jan. 14, 2006, 01:08:29 AM EST

You've never seen *any* of them? - (drewk) - (6) - Jan. 14, 2006, 01:12:29 AM EST

I don't watch TV, remember? -NT - (ben_tilly) - (4) - Jan. 14, 2006, 01:25:13 AM EST

Two were movies, and yes I remember - (drewk) - (3) - Jan. 14, 2006, 02:05:10 AM EST

Well next time please do - (ben_tilly) - (2) - Jan. 14, 2006, 02:56:42 AM EST

Ben, you and I both had somewhat eclectic upbringings - (boxley) - Jan. 14, 2006, 09:22:57 AM EST

Didn't mean to - (drewk) - Jan. 14, 2006, 10:58:09 AM EST

maybe the same planet I'm from 'cause - (cforde) - Jan. 14, 2006, 03:13:52 AM EST

Nanu, nanu! -NT - (admin) - (1) - Jan. 14, 2006, 12:04:34 AM EST

Shazbot! -NT - (Yendor) - Jan. 14, 2006, 11:21:31 AM EST

Jesus wept - (broomberg) - Jan. 14, 2006, 01:00:14 AM EST

My $0.02. - (Another Scott) - (1) - Jan. 11, 2006, 07:44:43 PM EST

Thanks, that helps -NT - (ben_tilly) - Jan. 11, 2006, 10:15:51 PM EST

What about VNC? - (bepatient) - (2) - Jan. 11, 2006, 10:24:38 AM EST

How could that possibly work? - (ben_tilly) - (1) - Jan. 11, 2006, 10:59:05 AM EST

nope, you're correct - (bepatient) - Jan. 11, 2006, 11:40:20 AM EST

Maybe Xfce 4.2? - (Another Scott) - (1) - Jan. 11, 2006, 11:23:56 AM EST

Thanks, that *does* look promising..or not - (ben_tilly) - Jan. 12, 2006, 11:27:41 AM EST

s/linux/osx/g I know, solving wrong problem :-) -NT - (boxley) - (8) - Jan. 12, 2006, 09:16:35 AM EST

You can't do what I want with OS X, either. -NT - (ben_tilly) - (7) - Jan. 12, 2006, 10:52:48 AM EST

perhaps you are right but from your description - (boxley) - (6) - Jan. 12, 2006, 11:33:52 AM EST

Read the description again - (ben_tilly) - (5) - Jan. 12, 2006, 11:43:34 AM EST

Can you simulate what you want? - (Another Scott) - (1) - Jan. 12, 2006, 11:56:09 AM EST

It is closer to... - (ben_tilly) - Jan. 12, 2006, 01:35:50 PM EST

From what I'm reading.... - (Simon_Jester) - (2) - Jan. 12, 2006, 02:04:30 PM EST

That part of it is very doable - (ben_tilly) - Jan. 12, 2006, 01:51:07 PM EST

An alternate approach (new thread) - (ben_tilly) - Jan. 12, 2006, 05:11:00 PM EST

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