Yeah, the Internet's a bust.

The Wall Street Journal says it works pretty well for 30 somethings, but almost every woman in my age bracket lists the same imporatant requirement, "Likes to travel" (read "likes to travel and has the leisure time and money for it").

Well, I don't like to travel that much and don't have the leisure time either. The women aren't doing any better though. If I drop in 6 months later the very same faces will all still be at the top of the active list.

Only outside activity I've seen that looks like it might work is politics. I can't work up any enthusiasm for stuff I'm not really interested in - I'm just not the con man type. The stuff I am interested in isn't generally group activities.

As for cars, that's the way women in Los Angeles do their first cut. It's like human resources departments and degrees. By requiring a degree for a job that doesn't need it they can cut the number of people they have to talk to by 80%. Sure, it probably cuts out all the best candidates, but they have to do something, right?

On the other hand I've got a lot of emotional investment in (L), which needs to be resolved one way or t'other. She needs to drop the cold fish act or stop taking advantage of a relationship she denies and refuses to contribute to, or I need to take sharp action. Basically, she's been doing the minimum to string me along and maintain the staus quo - but the status quo is now busted and can't be fixed.

Post #221,626 by Andrew Grygus 8/30/05 1:03:38 PM Reply	Yeah, the Internet's a bust. The Wall Street Journal says it works pretty well for 30 somethings, but almost every woman in my age bracket lists the same imporatant requirement, "Likes to travel" (read "likes to travel and has the leisure time and money for it"). Well, I don't like to travel that much and don't have the leisure time either. The women aren't doing any better though. If I drop in 6 months later the very same faces will all still be at the top of the active list. Only outside activity I've seen that looks like it might work is politics. I can't work up any enthusiasm for stuff I'm not really interested in - I'm just not the con man type. The stuff I am interested in isn't generally group activities. As for cars, that's the way women in Los Angeles do their first cut. It's like human resources departments and degrees. By requiring a degree for a job that doesn't need it they can cut the number of people they have to talk to by 80%. Sure, it probably cuts out all the best candidates, but they have to do something, right? On the other hand I've got a lot of emotional investment in (L), which needs to be resolved one way or t'other. She needs to drop the cold fish act or stop taking advantage of a relationship she denies and refuses to contribute to, or I need to take sharp action. Basically, she's been doing the minimum to string me along and maintain the staus quo - but the status quo is now busted and can't be fixed. [link\|http://www.aaxnet.com\|AAx]
Post #221,634 by boxley 8/30/05 1:36:33 PM Reply	sounds like time for those 3 words lovers use fine swell bye thanx, bill "the reason people don't buy conspiracy theories is that they think conspiracy means everyone is on the same program. Thats not how it works. Everybody has a different program. They just all want the same guy dead. Socrates was a gadfly, but I bet he took time out to screw somebodies wife" Gus Vitelli Any opinions expressed by me are mine alone, posted from my home computer, on my own time as a free american and do not reflect the opinions of any person or company that I have had professional relations with in the past 49 years. meep questions, help? [link\|mailto:pappas@catholic.org\|email pappas at catholic.org]
Post #221,647 by Andrew Grygus 8/30/05 2:15:40 PM Reply	It's a lot more complicated than normal . . . . . but it well may come down to that anyway, and soon. [link\|http://www.aaxnet.com\|AAx]
Post #221,662 by drewk 8/30/05 3:19:59 PM Reply	WTF is "normal"? === Purveyor of Doc Hope's [link\|http://DocHope.com\|fresh-baked dog biscuits and pet treats]. [link\|http://DocHope.com\|http://DocHope.com]
Post #221,718 by Nightowl 8/30/05 8:04:40 PM Reply	Just a suggestion You might try more "specific" internet. In other words, find a group or board that is locally based, and that meets together. They do exist, they just have to be hunted up. I met my husband on a local BBS here, in St. Louis. It was a group that actually got together in person and met one another, etc. If you could find something like that in LA, that was locally based, you might have a better chance. HTH Brenda "Excel is to math what a Microwave Oven is to cooking!"
Post #221,729 by boxley 8/30/05 8:53:04 PM Reply	you norm and john and I'll take your word about john He would have better odds frequenting S&M gay bars. thanx, bill "the reason people don't buy conspiracy theories is that they think conspiracy means everyone is on the same program. Thats not how it works. Everybody has a different program. They just all want the same guy dead. Socrates was a gadfly, but I bet he took time out to screw somebodies wife" Gus Vitelli Any opinions expressed by me are mine alone, posted from my home computer, on my own time as a free american and do not reflect the opinions of any person or company that I have had professional relations with in the past 49 years. meep questions, help? [link\|mailto:pappas@catholic.org\|email pappas at catholic.org]
Post #221,747 by Nightowl 8/30/05 10:49:08 PM Reply	Re: you norm and john and I'll take your word about john He would have better odds frequenting S&M gay bars. Huh? What's Norman have to do with it? I'm missing something here. Brenda "Excel is to math what a Microwave Oven is to cooking!"
Post #221,789 by CRConrad 8/31/05 8:02:39 AM Reply	They - both - were what you had on your local boards in St L But yeah, that's nothing new. [link\|mailto:MyUserId@MyISP.CountryCode\|Christian R. Conrad] (I live in Finland, and my e-mail in-box is at the Saunalahti company.) Your lies are of Microsoftian Scale and boring to boot. Your 'depression' may be the closest you ever come to recognizing truth: you have no 'inferiority complex', you are inferior - and something inside you recognizes this. - [link\|http://z.iwethey.org/forums/render/content/show?contentid=71575\|Ashton Brown]
Post #221,827 by Nightowl 8/31/05 11:50:41 AM 8/31/05 11:51:14 AM Reply	I see :) Well, I didn't say every person on a local site was ok, hehehe. I just meant if you had a local site to actually meet people in person from, you have a better chance of finding a good one among the assholes. :) Thanks, CRC. Brenda Edit: changed bad to assholes per FQ. "Excel is to math what a Microwave Oven is to cooking!" Edited by Nightowl Aug. 31, 2005, 11:51:14 AM EDT Expand All History

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