Post #221,576
8/30/05 9:50:50 AM
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Couple of comments
I, too, am home-based, and the only men who show up at my front door are the mail man (who hates me because my dog tore through the screen to get at him. For the record, once she got her head through the screen she freaked out and just stood there. The mail man was not at risk in any way), and the FedEx guy. Granted, I'll get more exposure when I get a new job, but in a field dominated by women, I aint getting my hopes up.
My big night out is a trip to the grocery store, where I did get hit on once, by a man who was obviously mentally challenged. He followed me down several aisles asking me if I was married until I shook him. My mom takes the kids for an occassional evening, and I usually spend that evening decompressing on the couch with a merlot and a movie. I hang out with friends a lot, but all my friends are married with kids so we usually do family activities.
I can be who I am 24/7, but I dont have a lot of faith that "it'll just happen". And I was "who I am" when I met my ex husband and look where that got me. If being "who I am" attracts that kind of man, and if I'm too dumb not to be able to screen him out, then I'm better off alone.
As for the car thing, I've lived in the "motor city" my whole life and I could care less what kind of car a man drives. Seriously. I've never viewed cars as a status symbol and certainly would not judge a man by his car. But that's just me.
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Post #221,646
8/30/05 2:13:16 PM
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The old structures are all broken . . .
. . and new ones aren't in place, society's just been changing too fast. Those who most deserve each other are the least likely to find each other. Can't do anything about it, we just have to work around it - but we can bitch.
Hanging out with marrieds does not good. They may know people you ought to meet but they're just plain scared to suggest it. Won't happen.
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Post #221,720
8/30/05 8:10:00 PM
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Something to consider also
I can be who I am 24/7, but I dont have a lot of faith that "it'll just happen". And I was "who I am" when I met my ex husband and look where that got me. If being "who I am" attracts that kind of man, and if I'm too dumb not to be able to screen him out, then I'm better off alone. ] If you truly take a look at yourself and see things about yourself that are destined to attract those kind of men, you can make efforts to change them. I am not commenting about you, because I don't know who and what you are, and wouldn't dare to assume. That's for you to assess, no one else. I'm simply saying that for years, I did attract "those kind of men" who were not good for me, (or anyone else), and my victim-syndrome personality, and behavior caused those attractions. I made efforts to change, and those kind of men vanished from the scene. Instead, I met John, and he is nothing like anyone from my past. Brenda
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Post #221,809
8/31/05 10:50:14 AM
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Re: Something to consider also
I was commenting more on the blindness of youth and my inability/stupidity/stubborness to see where the relationship with my ex would take me in 20 years. It's a pity we arent blessed with insight in our youth, nor have we had enough life experiences to develop any hindsight . Truth is, I attracted, pursued and dated some great men. I was seeing a very nice, educated, boyishly cocky guy while I was dating my ex. I chose the wrong guy. There's that hindsight thing again.
I'm not confident in my current ability to choose wisely. Once bitten, twice shy, as they say.
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Post #221,825
8/31/05 11:48:42 AM
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Re: Something to consider also
I was commenting more on the blindness of youth and my inability/stupidity/stubborness to see where the relationship with my ex would take me in 20 years. It's a pity we arent blessed with insight in our youth, nor have we had enough life experiences to develop any hindsight . Truth is, I attracted, pursued and dated some great men. I was seeing a very nice, educated, boyishly cocky guy while I was dating my ex. I chose the wrong guy. There's that hindsight thing again. I'm not confident in my current ability to choose wisely. Once bitten, twice shy, as they say. See, then you've already done what you need to do to make better choices. That's all it takes. And yes, hindsight teaches some really hard lessons. Good luck with both the job search and the soulmate search. :) Brenda
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Post #221,835
8/31/05 12:04:41 PM
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this point shes jus lookin for someone to floss her gnarlies
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Post #221,839
8/31/05 12:18:20 PM
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My gnarlies?!?
How quaint.
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