I sent everybody a copy of "Skipping Christmas" as a gift.
[link|http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0385508417/qid=1102354184/sr=8-1/ref=pd_csp_1/002-5544725-7814456?v=glance&s=books&n=507846|http://www.amazon.co...&s=books&n=507846]
It took about 15 minutes to cover all my shopping and neatly made my point.
The book (now a film this season called "Christmas with the Kranks") does a good job of detailing the enormous peer pressure to participate but wimps out in the end when they ultimately cave on their plan.
It seems the only way to really escape the madness is to leave the country. I can't afford to do that this year.